Monday, July 30, 2012
Sunday, July 29, 2012
On Hate
I had a nice day. I hope you did too.
I have something to say. If you are reading this and you have been shit-talking about how you want to eat at Chick-fil-A even more now that the place is so openly against treating homosexuals as equal human beings deserving of equal rights (via facebook, twitter, or your big flobbidy pie hole)... well, fuck you. I'm simply ashamed of you gay bashing Christians. Don't read my blog because I would not open myself up to you in person as I do here. Also, I don't think you deserve to bring up Jesus constantly if you can't show love and respect for all of your fellow human beings.
My awesome friend Allison has a better, and more diplomatic, response to this disgusting wave of hate and ignorance:
"I don't expect to change anyone's beliefs, and you can eat as many chicken sandwiches as you want, but it's disappointing to me that some still believe that certain groups should be discriminated against in any way. Free speech is not the issue, it's excluding an entire group of people or ostracizing them for their "preferences" (which I believe are not a choice). I think this will be a time in America's history that many of our children will look back on with embarrassment. And not necessarily because of a COO's comments, but because of the hateful conversation those comments have sparked."
I get too upset to express myself in the best manner, so I will end with some words of wisdom from a great man:
"Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that." - Martin Luther King, Jr.
I have something to say. If you are reading this and you have been shit-talking about how you want to eat at Chick-fil-A even more now that the place is so openly against treating homosexuals as equal human beings deserving of equal rights (via facebook, twitter, or your big flobbidy pie hole)... well, fuck you. I'm simply ashamed of you gay bashing Christians. Don't read my blog because I would not open myself up to you in person as I do here. Also, I don't think you deserve to bring up Jesus constantly if you can't show love and respect for all of your fellow human beings.
My awesome friend Allison has a better, and more diplomatic, response to this disgusting wave of hate and ignorance:
"I don't expect to change anyone's beliefs, and you can eat as many chicken sandwiches as you want, but it's disappointing to me that some still believe that certain groups should be discriminated against in any way. Free speech is not the issue, it's excluding an entire group of people or ostracizing them for their "preferences" (which I believe are not a choice). I think this will be a time in America's history that many of our children will look back on with embarrassment. And not necessarily because of a COO's comments, but because of the hateful conversation those comments have sparked."
I get too upset to express myself in the best manner, so I will end with some words of wisdom from a great man:
"Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that." - Martin Luther King, Jr.
Friday, July 27, 2012
The Best Medicine
I'm still feeling a bit mopey, without sufficient reason, but a good laugh always seems to help.
(Note: If you don't find the first video funny, there is decent chance you won't like the others either)
(Note: If you don't find the first video funny, there is decent chance you won't like the others either)
RIP Greg Giraldo
Ricky Gervais - Tips to avoid AIDS
Louis CK - Boys vs Girls
Sarah Silverman - Sell the Vatican, feed the world
Whitney Cummings - Construction workers
I haven't said much about myself at all in this post. I just don't feel like writing and there really isn't much to say. Just waiting. Waiting to find out if I'm in remission. Waiting to feel better and stronger. Waiting to find out if I will get to study abroad. Waiting to find out what I made on this test I took today for Intro to Computers. I'm an impatient person and all this waiting is giving me stress headaches.
Back to the comedians that make me feel better.
Monday, July 23, 2012
Are we there yet?
Today I was suppose to get my 8th and final treatment but my white blood cell count was too low. For now, my oncologist feels that getting this 8th treatment will do more harm than good. In 3 weeks, he will do a CT scan to see where I stand and if that looks good then no more chemo!!!! So cross your fingers for me!
Sunday, July 22, 2012
SO DAMN CLOSE!
Chemo in the morning. 8:45 AM. If I can just make it through the next two weeks, everything will be ok. Then I'm practically done.
Also, if the kids outside would stop playing basketball so I can get some sleep, I might not lose my fucking mind.
I don't have the words to describe how I feel right now, which might be why I have a lot less readers lately. But I don't care about that. I just want this to be over with. The next two weeks will be the hardest yet and then I'll feel FREE.
Words don't even look the way they should now so I should probably go to sleep.
Also, if the kids outside would stop playing basketball so I can get some sleep, I might not lose my fucking mind.
I don't have the words to describe how I feel right now, which might be why I have a lot less readers lately. But I don't care about that. I just want this to be over with. The next two weeks will be the hardest yet and then I'll feel FREE.
Words don't even look the way they should now so I should probably go to sleep.
Saturday, July 21, 2012
R is for Remission
Two days until my final treatment.
I’m both excited to be done with chemo and dreading how awful I’m going to
feel. Getting a bit depressed this last time scared me. Every time I’m down and
out for even a day I worry that I will spiral out of control again. I keep
reminding myself that I’m OK and that this will be over soon enough. It’s
surprising how helpful it is for me to just say, “You’re OK” to myself.
Soon I hope to hear Dr. Gore drop
the R word: Remission. I suppose then I might need to change the name of this
blog. I might consider not writing at all anymore since I don’t feel that I’m
interesting here. I will have more going on in my life in the near future so I
might have less time to dedicate to this blog. But I am planning something big
though, which is the main reason I will probably continue posting! I have been
trying to sort out the details of doing a semester abroad at Lund University in
Lund, Sweden or at the Technical University of Dortmund in Dortmund, Germany
during the spring or summer term of 2013! The school I choose (and whether I go
at all) will depend on many different factors, including the financial aspect
and getting everything prepared in time. I can only use the financial aid my university
allocates to me if my university will accept the classes I choose to take
abroad as transfer credits.
These are the courses I was
looking into for Lund U:
I can’t plan so much for Dortmund
because even though my university has an exchange agreements with them, I need
to hear back from the coordinator of exchange programs at my university. Her
father had heart surgery recently (but he is doing better) so I understand why
I haven’t heard from her. I might just email the TU Dortmund myself to get some
information.
It’s nice to have something to get
excited about and look forward to now that I’m coming to the end of this cancer
chapter. I might be a restraining order to prevent future recurrences.
Tuesday, July 17, 2012
Maldita quimioterapia!
I hope you're smiling now!
This weekend was really successful
in terms of cheering myself up. However it did put me behind in terms of
classwork so I spend most of yesterday desperately trying to catch up, which
was boring as hell and draining. I’m
going to beat cancer but microeconomics might be the death of me.
Things I did to cheer myself up
during the weekend:
-Watched the movie Oldboy. I
thought it was a great movie but really gut-wrenching so maybe not the absolute
best choice for lifting my spirits.
-I had breakfast with my dad at
The Cracker Barrel. He gave me a nice note a woman at the cancer center had
told him was for me:
I have no idea who this person is
or why she noticed me but the message was really sweet. Something so small can
make a different in a stranger’s life (in this case I’m the stranger), especially
if that person is going through a rough patch.
-I took the time to do my makeup
so I could feel attractive again (it’s been a struggle lately):
-My Swedish friend Daniel and I
switched accounts on the dating site where we are both members. He is now in
charge of my profile and I am in charge of his profile. This provided hours of
entertainment, though that might sound silly. I found out it is difficult to be
a male trying to communicate with women on a dating site. I wasn’t getting many
replies to my messages. I read that, according to a study that may or may not
be a reliable source, a male writing to woman on a dating site should write
long, thoughtful messages if he hopes for a reply and a woman is better off
keeping her messages short. In my experience, males will respond to just about
anything. Sorry guys. I suppose I abused my new power a bit by messaging a
female (as Daniel) and simply said, "OH MAN! LOOK AT THEM BIG OL'
TITTIES!"
-I finished a rough sketch of a
tattoo design my brother had commissioned me to create. My brother is a marine
and the tattoo he wanted me create was a sheepdog protecting the sheep from the
wolves. I’ve been stressed out about it because I don’t know how to design a
tattoo, I’m not that great at drawing, and I didn’t think what I came up with
would match what he had in his head. I won’t post it here because I don’t feel
like I did a very good job at all. I got a semi-positive review from him
though, which was reassuring.
-I Skyped a bit with one of my
German friends. I learned some interesting “Life in Germany” trivia that will
be useful is my study abroad plans pan out. I’m waiting to hear back from the
coordinator at my university about a time I can meet with her and the details.
6 days until the last chemo and I’m
dreading the extent of how awful I will feel so much that I’m ready to run away
to Mexico. Necesito un compañero de viaje! Esta mierda va a terminar pronto.
And now on to “Businesses and the
Costs of Production”… :-(
Saturday, July 14, 2012
Video Blogging
I thought I'd post a video for a change:
It took sooo long to upload that I'm not sure I will do this again.
It took sooo long to upload that I'm not sure I will do this again.
Thursday, July 12, 2012
The Rules of Online Dating
I'm exhausted after stressing out over the two tests (one for microeconomics and one for intro to computers). So instead of even attempting to come up with a post of my own, I'll repost something I found particularly amusing/horrifying.
I'll preface the following by saying that I have been a member of the same dating site as this person for about 5 or 6 years, on and off. I've been on a few dates with members from this site but always follow the golden rules of online dating: use common sense, proceed with caution, meet in public, and trust your instincts. Though this blogger did not follow these rules, no real harm came to him and it made for an interesting story. Credit to the author: http://ericsmarshall.wordpress.com.
I'll preface the following by saying that I have been a member of the same dating site as this person for about 5 or 6 years, on and off. I've been on a few dates with members from this site but always follow the golden rules of online dating: use common sense, proceed with caution, meet in public, and trust your instincts. Though this blogger did not follow these rules, no real harm came to him and it made for an interesting story. Credit to the author: http://ericsmarshall.wordpress.com.
"As many of you may know, Faye and I broke up a little while ago.
Obviously any breakup is difficult, and this was even more so because I
still love her, and think of her as my best friend. Things have remained
amicable, which I really appreciate. We still talk, mainly by instant
message and text. Every so often we speak on the phone. I’m looking
forward to being able to see her again when I go home.
Out of boredom and loneliness I signed up for the dating website (NAME OF SITE REMOVED FOR MY BENEFIT).com. This
girl from Atlanta and I have been texting a little bit. Our matches
were somewhat high, which in theory should mean that we have things in
common. She’s cute, but a little chubbier
then I tend to like. She also writes very poorly; abbreviated text type,
misspellings, disregard for grammar and punctuation, etc. That should
have been a red flag for me but I chose to ignore it. Probably out of
loneliness / horniness. We’ll call her Sara. So Sara texts me last
Saturday night and says she’s in Chattanooga. She’s really vague and I
can’t tell why she’s in town, It sounds a bit like she’s moving back
here. So I ask her if she wants to grab coffee at some point Sunday and
she says sure.
I wake up a little late on Sunday, 10ish, and around 10:30 I’m
surfing the internet and drinking coffee. She texts me and asks where I
am, so I tell her I’m at my apartment. She then asks if her friend can
drop her off until her sister can pick her up because she doesn’t have
anywhere to go. I think about it for a second, and then agree, thinking
that it might be a little weird, but I can get along with just about
anyone for a couple of hours. So the worst case scenario is that it’s a
little awkward, the best case scenario is that we hit it off and I might
get some (I know, I’m terrible).
So she gets dropped off within about ten minutes with four bags, and
her little three legged dog. She is definitely not as cute as she
appears online, and is perhaps even chubbier. I apologize for still
being in my pajamas, and for my place being a mess, but she seems
genuinely not to mind. We sit out on my balcony where she proceeds to
chain smoke and we start talking. The reason she’s in Chattanooga is
because she got mugged in Atlanta and they stole her purse. So she
needed to come and get an ID, a bank card, and her Adderall. But it’s
Easter Sunday, she got her adderall the previous day and will have to
wait until the next day to get her ID and bank card. Being back in
Chattanooga she was also able to sign divorce papers with her estranged
ex-husband. Apparently she got married when she was 16 years old. I told
her I didn’t even know someone could get married at that age, but I
guess with parental consent it’s A-OK. She also never graduated high
school, which I deduced from her telling me she got a job with a forged
GED. But she doesn’t work there anymore, now she’s a cocktail waitress
at a strip club.
So I start to ask her when her sister will be around, and what she’s
up to. Her sister is visiting her boyfriend, three hours away, in jail.
But the visits are limited to only an hour, she says, so it won’t be too
long. I find out what time the sister left in the morning, do some
quick math, and realize that AT BEST, the sister will be here in four
hours. That’s IF she goes straight to the jail, spends the hour there,
and comes straight back without stopping for lunch or to rob a
convenience store. The boyfriend is in jail for running over and killing
a pedestrian while drunk. At eight in the morning. The sister is going
to pick up Sara and bring her to their dad’s house so that Sara can
borrow a tent and camp for a few days in Chattanooga to get her shit
straight. Why not just stay with the dad, you might ask? Well he’s away
on business and Sara and her step-mom HATE each other, and barely talk.
So fast forward four hours of kind of sitting around, talking, eating
lunch, etc. It’s getting close to the time when the sister should be
picking her up. They’re talking on the phone, and it’s apparent that the
sister is not coming to get her. Sara is now sitting on my floor,
crying, as she explains that her sister is too sick to come pick her up
and drive her all the way to their father’s house. How far away is the
father’s house? About twenty minutes. I’ll drive you, I tell her, and
then drop you off at your sister’s. She says I don’t have to, it’s so
far away, but I know it’s the easiest way to get rid of her. So we go to
her father’s house. And no one is home. The doors are locked. Shiiit.
Oh well, I say, I’ll bring you by your sister’s and she’ll have to bring
you back to pick up the tent when someone is home.
So now we’re on our way to the sister’s, back in Chatt. We’re a
couple of blocks away and Sara calls her. The sister tells her she can’t
come over. I pull over in a church parking lot while they argue, a
block from the sister’s house. She gets out of the car, and is standing
behind it, still arguing. I choose not to listen and have the radio on.
Meanwhile, I’m thinking about driving away. I mean she’s a block from
her sister’s, it can’t be that bad, she can walk there. But she knows
where I live. And her dog, and all of her worldly possessions are
sitting in my car. I can’t do it, I just can’t. She gets back in the car
and tells me that her sister lives with her boyfriend’s parents. Sara
and the boyfriend one time got in a physical fight, and his parents
(understandably) don’t like her and don’t want her in their house. So
she says that all she wants to do is be back in Atlanta, she hates
everyone in Chattanooga, doesn’t have anyone here, etc. Considering she
just moved away at the end of last year, this doesn’t bode well for the
type of person she is. So I ask her if she has somewhere to go in
Atlanta, and she says yes. So I tell her I’ll drive her to Atlanta.
She’s super appreciative, and we go back to my place to grab a bite of
dinner first and so that I can feed my dog. In the meantime she asks if
her sister can come over to say goodbye to her before she leaves town. I
say sure, no problem. The sister seems nice enough, and they sit on my
couch, smoke weed, and argue before we leave. I had to take my dog out
for two walks while she was there, just because I couldn’t take the
bickering. The drive back to Atlanta was fairly uneventful, and more
relaxed because it finally seemed like things were settled. I helped her
carry her bags into her friend’s apartment at about 10:00pm and then
gave her a hug goodbye, glad to be by myself and back on my way to
Chattanooga.
So hopefully I have stored up some karma, and learned a lesson.
Hopefully I will not allow myself be held hostage by a potential suitor
anytime in the future."
Tuesday, July 10, 2012
Countdown
I just got home from an exhausting 5 hours at the hospital. After a chest x-ray, some blood work, a talk with Dr. Gore, a CT scan, and an ultrasound... the diagnosis is whiny baby can't handle her chemo anymore. I guess I'm just at a point where I can't tell the different between the cumulative effects of chemo making me feel like shit and actually being sick. I am not accustomed to feeling this terrible (terrible just keeps getting worse). I'm dreading the way I will feel after the next treatment, though it will be my last and the feelings of euphoria that will follow might combat my feeling like death on a stick.
The trip to the hospital wasn't a complete waste of time though. Besides finding out that I am not sick and just need to get used to feeling like I have the flu and pneumonia all at once, I also found out that my stomach is not swollen because of the ascites (abdominal fluid build-up) again. The ultrasound technician informed me that I just have a lot of gas.... Lovely. But it is a good sign on the kicking cancer's ass front that she found very little fluid.
13 days left until my last treatment. I've been Xing out the days one by one. I'll go through the worst of it and then it will be over. Finally. Over half of this year has been devoted to fighting cancer and I'm ready to move on to something good.
My "m" key is starting not to want to work. If it gives out on me, I will either stop using words with "m" or use "$" as a replacement. Either option will be ridiculous.
And now I want nothing more than to take a big nap.
The trip to the hospital wasn't a complete waste of time though. Besides finding out that I am not sick and just need to get used to feeling like I have the flu and pneumonia all at once, I also found out that my stomach is not swollen because of the ascites (abdominal fluid build-up) again. The ultrasound technician informed me that I just have a lot of gas.... Lovely. But it is a good sign on the kicking cancer's ass front that she found very little fluid.
13 days left until my last treatment. I've been Xing out the days one by one. I'll go through the worst of it and then it will be over. Finally. Over half of this year has been devoted to fighting cancer and I'm ready to move on to something good.
My "m" key is starting not to want to work. If it gives out on me, I will either stop using words with "m" or use "$" as a replacement. Either option will be ridiculous.
And now I want nothing more than to take a big nap.
Monday, July 9, 2012
ill
Starting feeling beyond terrible. Chest pain. A bit of trouble breathing. A general awfulness that I don't know how to describe. Called cancer center. Will go in the morning or was told to the emergency room today if this gets worse.
Sunday, July 8, 2012
Progress.
When you find your ex has updated
his dating profile in a way that reflects the failed relationship: “Message me
if you are a stable and happy human being.”
I dealt with varying levels of
depression for so long that I didn’t grow. I was static. I couldn’t see beyond
my own misery and felt I didn’t really exist beyond my extreme unhappiness. Through
the years I allowed my depression to mold me into a very selfish person. I like
to think that during this current period of genuine happiness and relative
clarity of mind, I have evolved a bit; but I am not sure.
If my exes reviewed my past
relationships like films, I’m fairly certain I’d never get hired for another
role. I want to defend myself though. I was so screwed up. I wasn’t really
myself. I would never behave the way I did in my right mind. It’s difficult to
make up for abused and neglected feelings though. While I might deserve credit
for never cheating on a partner or physically hurting anyone, I think the
damage done when your boyfriend has to interrupt your suicide attempt is
arguably far worse. Hearing you cry and scream “Stay with me!” all the way to
the hospital will haunt me forever. There is nothing I can do to make up for
the damage I’ve caused except to just leave you alone. I wish I had done it a
lot sooner.
The people I dealt with in the
hospital that night were cold and unforgiving. They might as well have been
shouting their thoughts about me through megaphones, they were so easy to read.
“Thoughtless, selfish girl!” “Attention whore!” “Idiot!” I did not care at all.
Because as soon as I had swallowed all of those pills, I knew I wanted to live
and it resulted in me finally feeling alive then and ever since that night.
I don’t think any of this shit
with cancer has been as scary or difficult as lying awake night after night simultaneously
talking myself into and out of killing myself. Nothing is my life has been
worse than losing control of my ability to reason. I might be physically weak
now, but I feel emotionally strong.
A thought: people have come out of
the woodwork to be supportive of me since I found out I have cancer. I wish it
could have been like that with the depression. When a large amount of people
don’t even feel that depression is a type of illness, it can be embarrassing to
even admit to experiencing it. No one has told me if I just try to look at the
bright side my cancer will disappear. I felt alone no matter where I was or who
I was with. The situations are so different that my case doesn’t really make
for some foolproof argument, but it would be nice if mental health wasn’t still
such a taboo subject in so many circles.
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